There’s a distinct lack of LGBTQ+ representation in the mainstream media. Over the years, more definitions have been created to represent the expressions and experiences of members of the LGBTQ+ community.
So, if you’re not all too familiar with sexual orientations and identities, there are probably many you haven’t heard of – such as abrosexual.
Do you want to learn more about what it means to be abrosexual and how it differs from other orientations? Keep reading to learn more.
What Does Abrosexual Mean?
If someone labels themselves as abrosexual, they will often feel like their sexuality is fluid. Some abrosexual people may identify with one sexuality today and another tomorrow.
This is a completely valid and surprisingly common experience. If you think you might be an abrosexual, you’re not alone!
Abrosexuals don’t always change their sexualities in a short period of time. For some abrosexual people, it can be weeks, months, or even years before identifying with another sexuality.
There is no specific time frame associated with these fluctuations, and every abrosexual’s experience is unique to them.
For example, some abrosexual may fluctuate between two sexualities, while others may fluctuate between many.
This can include asexual, pansexual, gay, and more. It’s also important to note that the level of attraction and intensity an abrosexual person feels can change, too.
Here are just a few examples of what abrosexuality can look like:
- You might have no interest in sexual relationships, only to find that you’re sexually attracted to people of all gender identities or just one a few months later.
- You may initially feel attracted to people of all genders, but after some time, this may change to just one gender. A few weeks later, you may be sexually attracted to all genders again or another gender.
- You may be attracted to men one day and women the next.
- You may identify as a heterosexual woman, only to start experiencing a sexual attraction to women a few weeks or months later.
As you can see, the abrosexual experience is varied, and these are just a few ways that abrosexuality can present itself.
However, if you’re experiencing frequency fluctuations in sexual attraction to different genders, you may be abrosexual.
Are Abrosexuality And Pansexuality Different?
These two terms may seem the same, but they’re not. Pansexuality has no limitations in regards to sexual choice, gender, or orientation.
On the other hand, for abrosexual people, sexuality is always in a state of flux. They may identify as pansexual for some time, then asexual, bisexual, and so on.
Abrosexuality is unique for everyone, and one person’s experience may look different to someone else’s. For example, some abrosexual people may only experience changes in sexual attraction rather than romantic desire.
This means that although an abrosexual partner may still love their partner, their sexual attraction to them may change as their sexuality fluctuates.
There are even some circumstances that trigger this attraction to come back; however, it’s often unpredictable.
Abrosexual people may experience states of asexuality. For this reason, this orientation can also fall under the asexual spectrum.
It can also be described as a multisexuality. This umbrella term includes people are attracted to multiple genders at one time, both romantically and sexually.
Understanding Sexuality Spectrums
There are various sexuality spectrums out there, and different spectrums can include sexual attraction, sexual orientation, and romantic attraction.
Sexuality spectrums allow people to relate to identity and find others who share their experiences.
They foster a sense of acceptance and belonging for those who want to fit into a category. If you don’t want to fit into a category, that’s okay too!
Aroflux and Aceflux are two terms that refer to specific spectrums.
For example, the Aroflux spectrum is used to describe people who can fluctuate between positive and negative feelings of romance, while the Aceflux spectrum includes people who have both negative and positive sexual inclinations.
Although abrosexuality describes people who experience changes in their sexuality, those who are sexually fluid may label themselves with a different orientation. Other orientations can include:
Although queer was once a derogatory term, it has since been reclaimed by the community. This label is broad, and it can be used to describe someone in relation to their fluid experiences with gender, sexuality, or both.
The definition of bisexual can vary; however, it commonly refers to people who are attracted to more than one gender. In many cases, it describes people who are attracted to two genders.
Those who are asexual may have little to no interest in pursuing sexual relationships. However, some asexual people may still experience romantic attraction, while others don’t.
This spectrum can describe multiple ways that a person identifies themselves.
People who are pansexual will feel attraction to anyone, regardless of gender, usually both sexual and romantic attraction.
In many cases, pansexual people use personality as the basis for forming a relationship rather than gender.
How Can You Help Your Friends And Family Understand Abrosexuality?
If you’ve recently discovered that you’re abrosexual, you might want to reveal your sexuality to your loved ones.
Although there’s no pressure to come out, sharing your sexual orientation with those closest to you can be fulfilling.
For those outside of the community, the term abrosexuality may be unheard of. So, if you’re trying to define abrosexuality to someone who’s unfamiliar with the term, here are a few ways you can do it:
- Describe what the term means to you, and explain that your orientation changes over time
- Explain your unique experience with abrosexuality (for example, “I used to be attracted to women, but now, I’m attracted to men. I have also been through phases of experiencing asexuality”.)
- Tell your loved ones how you want to be supported. This can look different to everyone.
- Describe any challenges you’ve faced, and encourage them to ask questions if they don’t understand.
The Bottom Line
Abrosexuality may not be one of the most well-known sexual orientations, and for some, understanding it can be confusing.
However, it’s simply an orientation that’s used to describe people whose sexuality fluctuates.
If you want to learn more about supporting your abrosexual loved one, be caring and attentive, and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
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